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By Toni Bowers | February 25, 2013, 4:43 AM PST

This blog was originally posted in October, 2011.

According to a recent Civility in America 2011 survey, two out of three employees report that their performance has declined due to workplace incivility.  They also cite a “critical need” for civility training.

Most employees think that a breach of trust must be severe or even scandalous to take a toll on their relationships with co-workers.  To those people, Dennis and Michelle Reina, leading experts on promoting workplace trust say, “Think again.” Dennis and Michelle are co-founders of the Reina Trust Building Institute, a Stowe, Vermont-based consultancy, and co-authors of the award-winning business books Rebuilding Trust in the Workplace and Trust and Betrayal in the Workplace (Berrett-Koehler). They maintain that little breaches of trust over time are a big deal.  Like death by a thousand paper cuts, they kill productivity, performance, and morale.

The Reinas spell out seven reasons your co-workers might not trust you and show how to avoid the most common mistakes. The highlights are:

1. You withhold trust in others
Trust is a two-way street.  If you want people to trust you, you need to trust them.  For starters, avoid micromanaging.  Instead, give your co-workers the latitude to put their full talents to work.

2. You fail to acknowledge effort
When a co-worker goes above and beyond for you, how do you respond? Do you take a moment to personally recognize his effort? Or do you just say “Thanks” in a perfunctory email and move on to the next task?

3. You miss deadlines
Life happens and you miss a deadline here and there.  No big deal, right? Wrong.  Every time you don’t deliver, you betray trust because your co-workers were depending on you.

4. You arrive late for meetings
When you consistently arrive late, your co-workers feel that you’re wasting their time.  They also feel that you’d only be willing to do that if you think your time matters more than theirs.

5. You don’t admit your mistakes
By admitting your own mistakes, you not only acknowledge your humanity but also allow your co-workers to acknowledge theirs.  As a result, communication opens up, mutual trust is built, and people feel free to take smart, creative risks.

6. You spin the truth
Do your co-workers know that they count on you to tell the truth or do they just assume you’ll tweak it? Tell it like it is.  Spin never passes the sniff test anyway; people see it for what it is and, sooner or later, lose trust.

7. You behave badly
Be aware of your behavior.  Instead of berating a co-worker for missing a deadline, for instance, calmly ask how and why things got off track.  Understand what that person needs from you in the future.

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These minor changes in your daily routine will make a major difference in your life and career.

Happiness is the only true measure of personal success. Making other people happy is the highest expression of success, but it’s almost impossible to make others happy if you’re not happy yourself.

With that in mind, here are nine small changes that you can make to your daily routine that, if you’re like most people, will immediately increase the amount of happiness in your life:

1. Start each day with expectation.

If there’s any big truth about life, it’s that it usually lives up to (or down to) your expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first thought: “something wonderful is going to happen today.” Guess what? You’re probably right.

2. Take time to plan and prioritize.

The most common source of stress is the perception that you’ve got too much work to do.  Rather than obsess about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.

3. Give a gift to everyone you meet.

I’m not talking about a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod. And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is worth the spare change.

4. Deflect partisan conversations.

Arguments about politics and religion never have a “right” answer but they definitely get people all riled up over things they can’t control. When such topics surface, bow out by saying something like: “Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt.”

5. Assume people have good intentions.

Since you can’t read minds, you don’t really know the “why” behind the “what” that people do. Imputing evil motives to other people’s weird behaviors adds extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to reconciliation.

6. Eat high quality food slowly.

Sometimes we can’t avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste it; savor it.

7. Let go of your results.

The big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events that are outside your control. Once you’ve taken action, there’s usually nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some weird fantasy of what might happen.

8. Turn off “background” TV.

Many households leave their TVs on as “background noise” while they’re doing other things. The entire point of broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you’ll buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless consumer?

9. End each day with gratitude.

Just before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh or something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for that day because it will never come again.

Source: Linkedin

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Many of us want to retire early. That early retirement age might be 35, 40, or 50, but the idea is to retire sometime before the age of 65 and start enjoying life — before age and infirmity catch up with you.

The reality, though, is that the dream of early retirement will remain a dream unless you take action. Here are 5 steps you can follow to help you reach your goals of early retirement:

1. Make Early Retirement a Priority

You say you want to retire early, but have you made the necessary commitment? Look at the way you use your financial resources. What do your actions say about your financial priorities? If you really want to retire early, you have to make it a priority — and you might have to make tradeoffs. That means that you have to give up less important things in the present in order to achieve your long-term priority of early retirement.

2. Be Realistic in Your Expectations

Next, you need to look at your financial situation realistically. If you’re 35, have no savings plan, and $10,000 in your retirement account, you are going to have to make some very big changes in order to retire by age 50. Look at realistic investment returns (not the 10% predictions that many tout for stocks), and plan for conservative returns. Be realistic about what it will take to meet your early retirement goal. Any plan you make must be based in reality.

3. Create a Plan

Armed with the willingness to commit and realistic expectations, it’s time to create a plan. Your early retirement plan should help you save enough money each month to reach your retirement goals. This means that you have to consider cutting your expenses, and changing what you do with your money in order to meet the requirements of your plan. And don’t forget about having an investment strategy as well. Investing is the only way to build up enough wealth to retire early and comfortably.

4. Make Your Plan Work

You need to put effort into making your plan work. This might mean cutting unnecessary expenses from your budget. It might mean spending less, hoarding your money until you reach your goals. It’s true, trying to retire early can mean sacrifice now.

Another way to make your plan work is to increase the amount of money you make. If you know you won’t make your goal of early retirement in 20 years and you just can’t cut anymore, try to earn more money. Improve your marketability so that you qualify for a pay raise. Start a side hustle. Look for ways to increase your income so that you can put more money toward making your early retirement plan work.

5. Don’t Forget Diversity

Don’t forget diversity as you invest and adhere to your plan. You need the right asset allocation to see retirement portfolio success. It can also help to build diverse sources of income that can help you weather various storms before and during the retirement years. With the right income sources and asset allocation, you can get through setbacks without putting your early retirement goal at risk.


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By Toni Bowers | October 9, 2012, 4:23 AM PDT

Last week I wrote a blog about how a tech can earn more money without becoming a manager. If, however, you still want to pursue the management track, please know that leadership is a skill in its own right. You may be a great tech, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be a great manager.

In that vein, here are some behaviors that I see most often in poor leaders:

#1 You don’t seek feedback, or if you do, it’s for the wrong reason.

I think everyone has had the experience of being asked for feedback, sometimes even in a formal program, and then have all that feedback subsequently ignored. Some managers like to say they welcome feedback just so they can look like the kind of person who, well, welcomes feedback. But, in reality, they have no intention of ever using it.

Don’t do that. Don’t ask for feedback unless you’re prepared to actually implement some of it. It’s a different story if all the feedback you receive sucks out loud and you can’t use it, but at least go in with the best intentions. There’s nothing worse for employee morale than to make them feel like they’re being condescended to.

#2 You never exhibit vulnerability.
You may be that person who knows everything about everything. If so, you should make plans to donate yourself to science, because that’s one heck of a claim.

Maybe you’re not perfect, but maybe you think you need to project that image to gain and retain the respect of your direct reports. Well, that’s just dumb, and here’s why: Your staff knows that you’re not supernatural, which is what you’d have to be to have all the answers all the time. By pretending like you do, you are only portraying yourself as someone who thinks he/she knows everything — in other words, a phony and/or an obnoxiously insecure person.

Also, acting like you know it all is bound to make your staff feel insecure. If you can’t admit to not knowing something, then they know that there will be quite a few times when you’re basically taking them down blind avenues.

Just remember: You hired your staff members for their expertise. Take advantage of that.

#3 You’re unavailable.
I had a boss once who boasted about his open door policy at every opportunity. The only problem was, the door might have been open but he was never in his office. That’s like saying someone can have the keys to your car any time but then hiding the car.

It is true that with a management role, there is a lot of liaising to do with upper management. You should never let that take over your availability for your team. I’m fairly sure upper management doesn’t need every second of your time.

If you’re chronically unavailable then it will be translated by your team that you just don’t care. And why should they care if you don’t?

Some managers get so involved in the day-to-day that they don’t even realize they’re committing one or more of these leadership sins. Make sure you’re not one of them.

Source: http://m.techrepublic.com/blog/career/the-three-most-damaging-management-behaviors-that-you-probably-dont-know-youre-doing/4640

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suspended account

Friday night, I got a message with subject “suspended account”.

wao, what again this….. so hectic the day with pile of projects, homeworks, etc….

currently I am managing cyberdharma.net, a non-profit website, and… I’ve just moved to the new hosting. then my bud, he uploaded so many data used sftp port 5353 (quite big, 4GB), which was access SSH. and… the system automatically suspended the account. and… I’ve stopped worked on the home work and looked for the server provider, then convinced him that it just our fault, not intruders or other risky things. He’s really tough 🙂 — quite difficult to convince him, and after struggling searched the password of cpanel, almost for 1 hour, finally he trusted on me and released the account.

now, I wanna share what’s SSH, here it is:

“Secure Shell is a program to log into another computer over a network, to execute commands in a remote machine, and to move files from one machine to another. It provides strong authentication and secure communications over insecure channels. It is a replacement for rlogin, rsh, rcp, and rdist.”

what the provider done yesterday just part of defensive action of risky acts that trying to access the server. Like my lecture said years ago, security is an important thing and “do not trust any body”, “mitigate the risk as low as it could be”. missing him now….. ^^

for the next, if I could, I never using again sftp 5353, but ftp 21 🙂 (like what the provider advised).

Also I got some knowledge about overseas server that they automatically suspend the account if detected as risky access. A little bit different with local server, that the intruders mostly be known after the server cracked and all client shouted …. “I couldn’t access my web………..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ”

enjoy Saturday……… 🙂


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It seems like the unofficial employment motto of the past two years has been, “Any job is a good job.” But with the job market finally starting to show signs of a recovery, more workers are finding themselves ready to leave their current positions in favor of something better suited to their skills and career goals. In fact, The Wall Street Journal recently reported, “In February, the number of employees voluntarily quitting surpassed the number being fired or discharged for the first time since October 2008, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.”

However, even if you’ve been stuck in a job you’ve disliked for years, or have been counting down the days until you could tender your resignation, quitting a job should always be handled in a professional manner, to ensure you leave your employer with your network and professional reputation intact.

Here are five tips to ensure you quit with class.

Work hard until the end

If you have a new job lined up, it might be tempting to spend your last few weeks in your current position nodding off at your desk or ignoring e-mails from your soon-to-be ex-boss. “Don’t slack off or ‘check out’ because you know a new opportunity is coming up,” says Mark Newman, CEO of HireVue, a video-interview company headquartered in Salt Lake City.  This will ensure that you leave a lasting, positive impression at your old company.

Be gracious

Regardless of how ready you were to move on to a new job, it’s still important to show your appreciation for your old employer. “Be grateful and appreciative of the opportunity [your employer] gave you,” says Newman, who suggests thanking co-workers and managers with handwritten notes.

No matter what, acting like you’re better than your co-workers because you got a new job is a sure-fire way to make enemies. Much of the success that enabled you to land a new position probably couldn’t have been accomplished without the help of your co-workers. “I once watched someone act like ‘see ya later — don’t need you anymore — I’m out of here!’ when the exact opposite was true,” Newman says. Remember, you’re likely to cross paths with people in your industry over and over again, and you never know where your old co-workers will show up.  Be nice.

Give appropriate notice

While two weeks’ notice may seem standard, the actual amount of notice preferred will vary by employer.  “Go with the norms of the company,” Newman advises. “I am shocked at how many companies show people the door the minute they say they are leaving while others work through a transition period. Offer up the ability to stay as long as necessary for an effective transition and let the company react.”

‘It’s me, not  you’

When you have the initial “I quit” conversation with your boss or  human resources, make sure you emphasize that your decision was made based on what is best for you, not because you weren’t happy with the company. “Never make the discussion about why you are leaving about how much you hate your job or the place you work in any way,” Newman says. “Thank them for the opportunity and come up with a number of reasons about why the next job is to further develop your skills, expand your horizons, enhance your career, is more  convenient, etc.” Taking the high road, even if you disliked the job, will ensure your colleagues support your move. “Act like a jerk and that is exactly how you will be remembered forever,” Newman says.

Tie up loose ends  

Finally, when you’re on your way out, make sure that the transition is as easy as possible for those you’re leaving behind.  If someone has been hired to take your place, offer to train the person for a few days before you leave.  If not, write down important notes, locations of files, and the contact information of important people, to make the changeover easier for your successor. Finish all projects, and let your clients and vendors know about the switch to avoid any confusion.

Bing: When should you quit a job?

Kaitlin Madden is a writer and blogger for CareerBuilder.com and its job blog, The Work Buzz. She researches and writes about job search strategy, career management, hiring trends and workplace issues. Follow @CBForJobSeekers on Twitter.

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When We’re Connected

“Connection” is one thing that significantly give impact in processes of learning, as we’ve discussed last night in learning group at Asiawork.

One of  group member said that he felt connected to every single person there, even we’ve never met before. We just came there, without knowing what the topic of discussion, just be positive that we gonna have dinner together and talking about positive things, etc…. And, after we introduced ourselves, told people about “what they’ve never known about me”, which made every body surprising and laughing at the end. How honest we are, , how dull we are, and how trust we are to all people there.

In the discussion we talked about “crisis of learning”, the enemies of learning, and how to be a good coach. Some items that cause the crisis of learning are “crisis of epistemology”, “crisis of capitalism”, “crisis of connection”, “crisis of emotion”, etc. There are also thing about “how to be a good coach” is when we could combine or balancing within “body”, “language”, and “emotion”. Beside that there so many enemies of learning such as blindness of blindness, inability say “i don’t know’, confusion, confusion between opinion and knowledge, no time, etc….

Talked about connection. In there we could explore each other and trust them, discussed about everything freely, and gave feedback then accepted it with openess, all of them happened cause we felt connected (stay in same frequences and no boundaries).

What I had last night is part of my learning processes that improve my ability to understand this life. And this morning I met taxi driver and I felt connected. Both of us love “Kitaro” and we talked alot about him 🙂 

That’s all n have a great days to all…!!


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