Archive for September, 2018

Global Executive Mindset – GEM by Stephen Krempl

One day a young lady from Mandiri University sent me an invitation which entitled “Training Global Executive Mindset”, and she put special note in the email “limited only for first 25 registrant”. Wow… this course might be something, then I click reply button and wrote “I’ll join the course and the registration form still waiting for my bos’ sign”, click send. She replied immediately “ok”.

The day was arrived and I entered the class, like usual I came early. After 30 minutes of waiting, a nice guy appeared- he is Stephen Krempl. He is a half Melayu ~ his mother is Dayak and he grew up at Serawak, Malaysia.

Ok then… let’s get through to what is GEM. In fact it is pretty simple: how to optimizing our 5% zone. Please put bold note: simple is NOT EASY.

Before we talk about 5% zone, first thing first is we need to ask ourself “do I really want to be someone better?” “Do I wanna move from good to great?” If the answer is YES, then read my article will worth your time πŸ™‚

Stephen told us if so much Asian are very smart and actually very capable as a global executive; and if they could improve their communication skill and could optimize their 5% zone then it could be true. Most of the time people get used to their 95% zone, hiding under culture or gender theme (read: daily habit), and when they got chances to express their “self/view/knowledge/ideas” they didn’t know how to… then those chances taken by other people. So that’s why we need to mastering the capability of “switching from our 95% zone to 5% zone when it is required based on the rules of the game“. 

To make this clearer, let me give an example: one day your bos share an issue about a situation and he needs new ideas to solve it OR he needs help voluntarily to make those things done. In this case, that is our 5% zone because there is a chance to share our ideas/thoughts to help him to solve company’s issues; which might it could build good perception about us (we call it green Xs) πŸƒ. Based on Stephen’s experiences, if there are 5 chances, at least make 3 green Xs; so our bos OR our bosses bos still could remember our great capabilities. And he also said: to make green Xs, it could be just a small thing of differentiation, which will make our ideas different from others and make it more meaningful. He added: and please remember “SMALL IS BIG“.

There are a clue to express our ideas, we called it 3P (Phrase, Physical, Picture):

  1. Phrase: something that can boost our spirit so we have courage to speak up, something that we can remember in 3 seconds, something like slogan; for example: just do it, ok, be the best, it is good
  2. Physical: a small act or movement that could make us relax and brave; for example: holding our hand, or fix our glasses, or clear our throat, or fix our collars, etc…
  3. Picture: picturing/imagining something that make us confident of our ideas; some people picturing sea so they could relax, but myself usually picturing the great moment when people happy and feeling good with my ideas cause it helps them.

Actually, there is one most important thing: PREPARATION. We cannot do great thing without preparation. So that’s why we need to practice. 

In the course, Stephen was telling us some ways to practice, such as:

  • How to start conversation, 
  • How to build proper impactful question,
  • How to answer question based on rules of the game, 
  • How to shift situation from negative to NEUTRAL even POSITIVE. 

O ya I almost forgot, Stephen shared if there are 7 behaviour facets those really important as global executive. And to me, there are 2 facet as fundamental: our ability to connect personal and take ownership. 

All things he delivered are his real life experiences. I feel it all are really relevant with my life; as a career woman, as a social person, as a child, as a friend, as a partner. 

Overall, this course really a refreshment for me and bring some insights to live this life in a better way. Thank you Stephen. πŸ™πŸ˜Š


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Vipassana Meditation ~ on me.

Today IΒ  got flu and I cannot focus on specific serious matters; then I need to manage my breath so I could still focus on my job and it could be done as expected, at least. Vipassana meditation helps me.

When I was a child, I also got “focus” issue, till my family asked me to sit down and took a breath and inhale-exhale inhale-exhale until I calmed and focused on my study. At the moment I didn’t know if it called meditation; in fact it becomes my daily routine till now.

Talked about Vipassana meditation, frankly I just knew this kind of meditation 2 months ago. At the time I was in a situation when I couldn’t see things clearly and I felt so uncomfortable and I think I need some helps. Then I called Bli Mangku and asked his advice. He taught me Vipassana Meditation.

He told me that I do need see thing clearly and gain my vision back. He was also telling me if this kind meditation is a best way because it is related to our breath and breath records all of our life memories; then consciously our mind will manage which memories need to stay in our mind, and which one is needn’t. Vipassana Meditation needs persistency and commitment and focus and willingness to share/ to release.

Along the moment, Bli Mangku accompanying and guide me; so I could share whatever I felt/saw. After two months of practices, I feel some experiences those I’ve never felt before; but in fact I could gain my focus back. Along this moment, I’ve experienced some-thing like “emotional swing” or “too sensitive feeling” or “too worrying”. Even those experiences existed, one thing I really feel is “actually I’m getting more stable in term of managing myself when addressing situation’s fluctuation”; perhaps because I’m getting more sensitive so I could recognize thing clearer and finally I could understand it better.

Today, when I suffered from my flu, I found this article about Vipassana Meditation written by Bhante Henepola Gunaratana. Here is the linkΒ https://tricycle.org/magazine/vipassana-meditation/

The article is very interesting and clear. Some statements those improve my understanding are:

  • The whole meaning of the word is looking into something with clarity and precision, seeing each component as distinct, and piercing all the way through so as to perceive the most fundamental reality of that thing. This process leads to insight into the basic reality of whatever is being inspected
  • We use breath as our focus. It serves as that vital reference point from which the mind wanders and is drawn back. Distraction cannot be seen as distraction unless there is some central focus to be distracted from. That is the frame of reference against which we can view the incessant changes and interruptions that go on all the time as a part of normal thinking
  • In this analogy the wild elephant is your wildly active mind, the rope is mindfulness, and the post is our object of meditation, our breathing. The tamed elephant who emerges from this process is a well-trained, concentrated mind that can then be used for the exceedingly tough job of piercing the layers of illusion that obscure reality. Meditation tames the mind
  • Breath is a phenomenon common to all living things. A true experiential understanding of the process moves you closer to other living beings. It shows you your inherent connectedness with all of life. Finally, breathing is a present-time process.
  • Essentially, Vipassana meditation is a process of retraining the mind. The state you are aiming for is one in which you are totally aware of everything that is happening in your own perceptual universe, exactly the way it happens, exactly when it is happening; total, unbroken awareness in present time.

I think that’s all for now, hopefully everyone could practice Vipassana Meditation πŸ™‚

Wie, thank you so much for all of these. β™₯gegβ™₯


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my September :)

Once, wise man said: keep dreaming, dream high… when the time is come, it will happen perfectly.!. Since then I always developing my “dream”, start from the most reasonable one till the “unbelievable” one.

One of my dream is living normal life, just like the others; someone drive/ride you to the office, then pick you up after the office, having simple dinner together, laugh together, cooking together, being silly to each other, just be together in a cozy situation.Β  And IT HAPPENED to me at this month… yeayy!!!! it is always will be my greatest gift. I only can say: THANK YOU SO MUCH wie…. πŸ™‚

This September, life seems really nice to me. I do really grateful for all of these. There was so much things happened previously, which drained my energy and my thought cause my dreams got broken. Then, in this September some of things getting better and more positive and I have chances to “renovate” my old dreams; and I wish all these good moments stay with us for the next month, and the next, and the next and the next till our last breath.

Talking about dream, to me: dreams are not always about “big/difficult/momento” things. Usually I’m developing simple dreams… cause I just want those simple things happen in my life. Even though sometimes I generated big dreams, and also put so much effort to made it true.

For the holy soul, wie…, again: thank you so much for being part of my life.


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